Recognize the signs of domestic violence and abuse… Awareness is the first step in healing…

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Signs and Symptoms of Domestic Violence…”  click highlighted text for more…

“There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most telling sign is fear of your partner.

Domestic Violence & Abuse Help Guide… Quote from this website article…

“Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following descriptions of abuse, reach out.” 

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When I write or talk about the subject of domestic violence and abuse, I get shivers and flashbacks of my own childhood and young adult experience.  One such memory is when my Dad freaked out when my brother and I came home with a jaywalking ticket while we were walking around Long Beach, California back in the early 1960’s.  I have a full brain catalog of painful childhood memories that seem to stick around forever.  In this case, and many others the memories are vivid.  My father exploded on many occasions when we were growing up for lots of small things.  Dad suffered severely from the emotional baggage of WWII and Korean War.  We were constantly in fear of him, and expected to be hit in the head on a moments notice and punished severely for things that were not always clear.  Mother would try to protect us but was mostly fearful of him too.

I carried all this emotional baggage with me for decades until finally discovering that talking and writing about it was actually healing.  These days in my later years in life I feel a peace of mind, especially since writing my first book and this blog.  This is my way of keeping the pain of the past at a safe distance.  My work in community service making a difference for children and families through my work with Neighbors for Kids in Depoe Bay, Oregon keeps me firmly grounded.  My wife, Judy, is my best friend and soul mate, who provides loving support every day, is a huge factor in my journey of healing as well.  Once becoming aware of the circumstances of domestic violence and child abuse, you can begin your own journey of healing.  But it is a work in progress.  The memories of a painful past come back to haunt most trauma survivors unless we confront the demons head on…

Steve Sparks, Author, Reconciliation: A Son’s Story and My Journey of Healing in Life After Trauma…  Click on the highlighted text for my author page…

 

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