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If You Suffer from Anxiety, Remember to be Thankful for Those Who Love You…”It’s Hard Work!”

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Without Loved Ones who Care, We are Lost in Managing Anxiety in Constructive Ways…

Anxiety is Tough, Especially on Loved Ones…13 Things to Remember  Quote from this link article published by Web Heath Paper…

“Anxiety is tough, isn’t it? Not just for the people that have it, but for you – the people that stick with them – while they’re going through it. It’s emotionally taxing on both ends, it’s physically demanding at times, and of course mentally demanding most of the time.  Plans have to be changed to accommodate the anxiety. Situations have to be avoided at times. Planning has to be just that bit more thorough. Emotional needs can change daily. It’s a lot to work through, and it can be hard to get in their head to understand on top of that.”

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I don’t think about the wear and tear on those who are close to me everyday, but I should.  Mostly, it is a huge personal struggle to manage and mitigate anxiety as a life long disorder for many.  When reminded with conversation, writing about stigma, or reading a new article like, “13 Things to Remember,” I’m so grateful for the understanding and patience from loved ones, especially my spouse.  She has a tough job!  But tells me it is worth it because she knows well how to help me work through the anxiety to make our days together much more positive… Otherwise, I would go immediately to my “blanket fort” and waste the whole day in my own self serving misery.  Although close friends and colleagues do the same, at least they are not around me 24/7.  The key is to keep a strong footing and move forward with healthy social interaction.  Without open communications with others and awareness, healing is virtually impossible.  Without a caring coach, those who suffer with severe anxiety, especially a panic attack, often retreat and go into isolation…better safe than sorry…

Please click this link, “13 Things to Remember,” and increase your awareness of what anxiety looks like, and how hard we all work together to support each other.  Distancing yourself from a loved one suffering anxiety is not the answer.  You can make a difference by not thinking what is wrong with your loved one or close friend, but ask yourself “what happened to cause the anxiety.”  This is the healthy way to move forward to be a hero to your loved one…

So, on this day and everyday be grateful and appreciative for those close to you who care enough to stay by your side and make each day a good day for all.  Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Steve Sparks, Author, Reconciliation: A Son’s Story and My Journey of Healing in Life After Trauma, Part 1&2…click the highlighted text for my author page and ordering my books…

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Steve Sparks, Author, Blogger, Child Advocate

Does Mindfulness-Based Therapy Help Trauma Sufferers Live in the Moment?

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“Veterans with PTSD who received mindfulness-based therapy reported greater (though modest) improvement in symptom severity than veterans in another form of therapy.”

Mindfulness…”Living in the Moment.”  Quote from this link…

“Mindfulness-based stress reduction therapy teaches people to pay attention to the present moment in an accepting way. Past studies have shown it can reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety, but could it also provide relief for those who suffer from posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD)? A new study finds veterans with PTSD who received mindfulness-based therapy reported greater improvement in symptom severity than veterans in group therapy sessions focused on current problems. Their overall improvement, though, was modest.  PTSD affects nearly a quarter — 23 percent — of all veterans who have returned from deployments in Afghanistan and Iraq. Left untreated, this condition poses unique dangers to veterans and their families.”

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It is a true story that living in the moment doing the things you are passionate about, including making a difference for others, offers a way to keep the pain of past traumatic experiences at a safer distance and mitigates anxiety about the future.  Some will argue that these healthy distractions achieved through mindfulness-based therapy can keep a person in denial of addressing the root causes of post trauma symptoms.  I say doing both in a balanced way can be effective.  I would rather practice mindfulness therapy than use prescription drugs or alcohol as self medication for the long term.  I also need to revisit and reconcile my own life trauma circumstances as an on-going process to keep a healthy perspective of those early child and young adult years that were so painful living in a highly stressful and sometimes violent home.

In my most recent book, My Journey of Healing in Life after Trauma, Part 2, Chapter 4…Teaching Kids Empathy & Compassion…Avoid the dangers of emotional numbness and denial, explores my own experience and resources in helping parents, teachers, and children understand how mindfulness-based therapy can work effectively.  Following is an excerpt from Chapter 4…

As vice chair of Neighbors for Kids, I have the privilege and opportunity to work closely with our staff and the children as part of my role as a board member for this amazing after-school program in Depoe Bay, Oregon.  Our program is growing with many new kids enjoying a very popular summer camp and registering for the start of the new school year.  Our kids become very excited and busy with recreation and academic programs centered in a core learning curriculum known as “STEAM,”  A Framework for Teaching across the Disciplines.   We are also an after-school site for the 21st Century Community Learning Centers project in collaboration with the Lincoln County School District (LCSD).

Our teachers and volunteers take a few minutes before each class to help students relax and refocus…a mindfulness exercise.  The exercise is as simple as staying quiet for 3 minutes with some deep breathing and positive thoughts.  Often children are distracted because of the challenges of socializing and sometimes from sad thoughts.  I could easily see that taking a little time for meditation with the kids helps them get ready for a new learning experience.  The short break between programs also helps us adults do a better job of mentoring and teaching kids as well. 

I have written often about the topic of “mindfulness”  (click highlighted text for video clip) in the context of life after trauma for adults.  But the practice and benefits of meditation or mindfulness therapy definitely apply broadly as a way to relax for people of all ages.  Children in particular get stressed out the same as adults.  We all need a mindfulness timeout a few times a day to stay calm and focused on the joy of living, learning, and growing.”

Take a look at my author page, and download “My Journey Part 2” and other books and resources to explore mindfulness-based therapy.  I have enjoyed far more peace of mind in these later years by becoming highly aware of my own post traumatic stress symptoms, and engaging in a balanced treatment strategy that works.  Each individual must find their own way, or in the case of children, show them the way by practicing living in the moment techniques.

Steve Sparks, Author, Reconciliation: A Son’s Story and My Journey of Healing in Life after Trauma, Part 1 & 2…  Click the highlighted text for my author page…

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Steve Sparks, Author, at Sunriver, Oregon in May 2015.

 

 

“The Wrath of Stigma!” is the first chapter of my new book, My Journey of Healing in Life after Trauma, Part 2.

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Saving your children, family and loved ones from inter-generational Post-Traumatic Stress (PTS)

Following is an excerpt from my new book to be released soon…

“Stigma is a self-fulfilling prophecy,” they say…  “After all the research and writing on the subject of PTS/PTSD, including this blog with close to 800 postings offering tons of information about my own experience, references and resources with the goal to help others, the human condition of STIGMA leaves me stone cold and in a quandary.  It is clear that we should all seek treatment immediately following a moral injury and living with the awful symptoms of depression and anxiety, including panic attacks.  But it would be dishonest for me to suggest to anyone who fears losing opportunities and dreams of career success, especially loving relationships and spiritual growth in life, to ever admit a mental health challenge.

My latest book is dedicated to the 70th Anniversary of the End of WWII.

Steve Sparks, Author, Reconciliation: A Son’s Story and My Journey of Healing in Life After Trauma, Part 1.  Click on highlighted text for my author page…

The Music of Healing from Pablo Arellano…

Please support my mission of helping families who suffer from PTSD and moral injury…order my books, My Journey of Healing in Life After Trauma, Part 1… (Kindle $2.99), and Reconciliation: A Son’s Story.  Click and order paperback or download Kindle version.  Buy my book at Barnes & Noble as well… Thank you! Steve Sparks, Author

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Pablo Arellano…

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Gift to my bride, Judy, on our 30th Wedding Anniversary, April 21, 2014…

Beautiful Long Time Relaxing Music (The spirit of joy) Part 5… click here for the music video clip…

Friday has become my day to share the music of healing from special selections, including Pablo Arellano…  Music of this soothing variety and extended play is very much part of my own mindful journey of healing.  It is important to take time out and use music to wander to happy places where living in the moment takes a priority, even for a short period of time.  Pablo Arellano’s music takes me to those happy places.  Hope you can take time away from your busy schedule in the privacy of a quiet and comfortable place at home, on the beach, or in the mountains and listen to this uplifting spiritual music.  Mindfulness is the perfect way to practice living in the moment, a most healing experience and relief from stress.

Steve Sparks, Author, My Journey of Healing in Life After Trauma, Part 1 and Reconciliation: A Son’s Story…

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